overwhelm

When Trying Harder Isn't the Answer

Most leaders I coach describe a constant stretch: deliver results, care for their teams, navigate organizational politics, and somehow avoid burning out. They tell me, “If I can just get through the next quarter, it’ll let up.” Or “We’re down three team members and I’m covering their work. Once we fill those positions, I’ll feel some relief.”

These are real pressures but they rest on a powerful assumption: If I just try harder, I’ll finally get ahead of it.

But what if the problem isn’t effort?

Self-Control: Limited but Renewable

Susan looked up at me with panic in her eyes when I walked into her office. “Oh, no!” she said dramatically. I thought she’d just heard about a major disaster. “What’s wrong?” I asked. “It’s 10:00, time for our appointment. I got in at 7:00 and I haven’t gotten anything done! I’m so overwhelmed, I can’t think straight. I was supposed to prepare for our session and I don’t even know what I want to talk about.”

“Why don’t we talk about this?” I said.